Thriller in Japan #1
Though I love my home country,
Thriller in Japan 1
Sometime, a couple has to invite somebody they have not talked to for a long time to an expensive wedding...
(note: In weddings, there is a rule that one table should not have certain number of people. To make up wrong number, the couple has to invite somebody who they are not really familiar with. If this rule are strictly kept, brides and grooms might feel so much pressure to prepare thier weddings. Nowadays, people are more liberal about weddings.) Question, comment, or objection wanted! To be continued...
posted by Snow @ 6:12 PM
5 Comments:
I wonder why couples are expected to invite someone they are not really familiar with. Is it an ancient custom? Is it for good luck? I am curious now.
I agree with Kuki and am also curious. Usually, weddings involve a mix of guests, but it is hard to know where to seat someone who is not very familiar to the bride or the groom. It is hard to gauge interpersonal relationships if someone's not familiar to bride or groom.
Actually, they are not expected to do so, but they need to, because they've already included friends who are really familiar with to the list of the guests. So what will happen next is, they have to add more people although they are not like really really really friends. They have to do it also for other convenience of the tables (like, too many people can not have seat in one table so one table might be devided into two). Talking about number, like western culture has 13 for unlucky number. Japanese has 4 and 9(4 means death and 9 means suffering in another way of reading). Anyway, weddings that are taken as authentic have this custom. And this kind of issue is something not discussed or talken under the table, because this is something everyone does and because we can not blame new couple anytime. That's why I think it is one of cultural "thriller"s in everyday life, if I overlook my culture beyond pacific ocean.
Let me add some background knowledge about marriage in Japan. There, divorce are taken to be kinds of tragedy. So, I heard it is a custom that they spend much money on weddings for themselves and friends so that they can avoid repetition of marriage.
Though I never have a plan to have expensive wedding.
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